Jennifer Ellis

Step into your power!

The mind

Your mind stores everything that it feels is important to you. The rest gets filtered, distorted or deleted.

You are inundated with so much information every day your body and mind has it’s own system to deal with it.

This means that every day you are seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting and feeling things that your body and mind have decided is what you want to experience and remember.

But what if you are sick of seeing fear, anger or shame everywhere you turn? What if you are tired of feeling not good enough every day? What if you hear failure even when the person your talking to is giving you a compliment?

Well at some point (normally a young child before the age of 7 years) you unkowingly chose to believe something that was said to you, or you felt, or you saw etc.

That formed a belief and your mind and body are obediant servants and listen to you intently. So if you told yourself at one point you were not good enough…then your body and mind listened and found lots of wonderful examples to prove it to you and as the examples kept coming up for you it kept re-enforcing the narrative and belief that you are indeed not good enough!

Now, what would have happened if you had decided to not hear, see or feel that thing that triggered it? You wouldn’t have the belief and your life would be very different.

It can happen so easily. You are the oldest child and a new baby comes along. Your parents are busy and don’t have the same time and patience for you. They try, because they are good parents but the new baby is quite a handful. So you get left, too many times and a feeling of not being loved as much creeps in, you tell yourself there must be something wrong with you and they prefer the new baby…and the seed has been sown. Many events happen after this that show you you are right. They didn’t give me the bedtime story tonight and went straight to the baby instead. They forgot our special time. etc. These thoughts, once occurring regularly start to build connections in the brain that strengthen the belief and it becomes something that is carried with you into adulthood.

You reach an age where you start to wonder why you ended up like this. Why you got the path you were given. Why your sibling is so different?

As a child these thoughts and processes are completely out of your control. The implication of having them not understood. As an adult, the main learning from knowing this is that everyone has experienced something in their life that has created beliefs that do not serve them and were not even true from the start.

The brain is flexible and things can be unlearned and new beliefs that you really do believe can be fostered instead.

This can help you with your confidence as a person, in how you show up in business or work. It can help with choosing to leave toxic relationships or stabilizing relationships, feeling loved, valued and liked. It can help you in so many ways to leave behind what isn’t true for you and let you be free to flourish as the real you before these childhood beliefs sabotaged your mind.

The body

Your body is also storing up all the energy of events you experience throughout life. It absorbs the energy and stores it until you are able to safely release it.

When you cry at a movie, a funeral, or when something upsets you, you are actually releasing the energy of pain, sadness, fear, hurt or whatever emotion you felt. This is good. You feel it and you release it.

Problems arise when you ignore the feeling, when you push it down, or dismiss it, you may even re-frame the feeling so it doesn’t get acknowledged at all. This is very common in abusive relationships. The pain of accepting that the person you love has physically or psychologically hurt you is too much, so you rationalize the event and thus dismiss your feelings to not feel the pain. The feelings are still however there, just trapped in your nervous system, waiting for a moment when you feel safe to release them.

It doesn’t have to be an abusive relationship, feelings that get pushed down also include being told your not good enough, not kind enough, feeling like you are an annoyance to your family, being told to stop crying and when your parent minimizes what you were feeling at the time ‘it’s not that bad, up we get’.

There are so many ways that trauma, either obvious or innocent occurs and gets stored in the body. As children, even the smallest thing can feel traumatic at the time, and that is the key. It felt so upsetting and traumatic then as a child but as an adult we often rationalize it with an adult’s hindsight and mindset. We dismiss the feeling again. 

Doing this regularly leads to a huge build up of energy trapped in your body. Over time your body cannot cope with it and you see the impact in your skin, hair, aches, pains, mood swing, depression, and lack of ability to connect to your emotions as everything, including joy gets pushed down. It’s too dangerous for your body to allow any emotions at this stage so it pushes everything down.

This can happen with grief, obsessive worry, or if your emotions were not allowed as a child and they were not respected. You may have gone through a traumatic breakup with a partner, been bullied at school, or had an accident that impacted your life. There are lots of life experiences that can be stored in your body’s nervous system.

Until they have been released they can cause you to react to triggers, have sudden bursts of rage, feel hard done by, go round in cycles of motivation and then stuck again with no energy. They can also lead you to be hyper-independent and super successful in some areas of your life, but feel empty in others.

Releasing this energy is the secret to feeling lifted again. The secret to feeling joy, excitement, ambition, drive, powerful, happy, and like you can take on the world!

Freeeeeeeedom!

Testimonials

“I felt super relaxed after our first session and only realised a few days later that I hadn’t really thought about what was bothering me before the session.”

“My energy and creativity are back. I’m excited to start looking forwards now.”

“…this technique is quite mind blowing! I would highly recommend working with Jennifer if you’re open to change and need someone amazing in your life to help you move forward. She is absolutely brilliant!”

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